The Sun is Shining

Day 38 Saturday

It's the first week to ourselves again. The sun is shining and G is feeling motivated to start on our garden. It's nice to enjoy some time together that doesn’t involve tension and piles of rubbish. He’s working hard building a raised bed and digging out a border. I’m supervising with a glass of cider!

I can’t help thinking about the girls and their house might be like already, just a few days later.

She wants to be their best friend, the wonderful mum that takes them fun places without having to deal with the bad behaviour or providing any kind of structure. Every day after school they go to a club, sometimes for the older one that the youngest get dragged along to, and some are for the little one that the eldest has to wait around at. Both are glued to her and to each other. Neither are allowed to do their own thing.

I worry about the eldest girl as she is 4 years older than her sister, but she seems to be held back by having to do everything with her sister or her Mum. She’s quite immature in her attitude and very clingy to other people. It was good to see her hanging out with J on the computer, rather than her sister, but she was always drawn back to her. They just need to be together.

My sister has no control, sets no boundaries and has no structure to their lives.